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How to be a good child

A child is pure and born in the state of fitra (purity). Parents are the one that shape their future. It is parents’ obligation and duty to teach their children and raise them to be responsible and good adults.
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A child is pure and born in the state of fitra (purity). Parents are the one that shape their future. It is parents’ obligation and duty to teach their children and raise them to be responsible and good adults.

According to the Musnad Ibn Hanbal, "The children of the unbelievers are better than you grown-ups. Every living creature is born with a righteous nature." It is our obligation and duty as parents to teach our children so that they grow up to believe, practicing Muslims.

The major institution of learning for a Muslim child is his family, which constitute his parents and siblings. Sending the child to an Islamic weekend school or to a full-time Islamic school is an important but minor part of their Islamic education.

Allah SWT sends prophets to mankind to be role model and act as example to all the people this earth.

A child should listens to their parents and be attentive to them. He or she should not raise their voices in notes of contempt to them. There is a famous poem by an anonymous author that said:

• If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
• If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
• If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.
• If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.
• If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.
• If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.





A child should always be polite with their parents. One of the ways how parents can assist in this is by introducing the idea that Allah is also happy with their good actions. If you say that what they did or are doing is making you and Allah happy, then the child begins to associate good behaviour with acting for the pleasure of Allah, which in a nutshell, is exactly what being a good Muslim involves.

Allah forgives the child who errs, and if he dies in childhood, he automatically goes to heaven. This mercy of Allah should guide us as we guide our children. It is not necessary to make the child fearful of Allah or fearful of going to hell. In fact, this approach is counter productive - it often achieves the very result we are trying to avoid. Stressing the negative and the punishment makes the child want to avoid anything to do with the religion. He or she grows up thinking that it is religion that keeps him from enjoying life.

Islam is a way of life and it encompasses all there is in our lives. We should not restrict ourselves to the ritual of the five pillars. A child can learn more by giving simple greetings like salam to the parents early in the morning or late at night before going to sleep.

A child needs to understand which actions Allah will be pleased with, rather than worry over punishment for mistakes he knows he will make.

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